Happy “early” New Year! This year has been truly transformative… I’ve watched God do more work in my heart, mind, soul and will than any other year and here’s what stood out…
- 1. My word for 2025 was Prepare. Preparation is faith in motion, passivity is fear pretending to wait on God. I learned that obedience often looks like getting ready before the promise is visible.
- 2. Surrender. Weeks after I surrendered a 4-year dream to move to the U.S. because we didn’t have our “health records”; a legitimate path emerged that was accepted and approved.
- 3. Peace comes from trust in God. My verse of the year was Romans 15:13. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."
- 4. “Take care of my people first.” I heard God instruct me to start giving to the poor (before I ask Him to address my issues) and brought my charitable donations to over 100K to Charity Water.
- 5. Indecision is still control and it costs more than choosing wrong. By refusing to choose (divorce or keep trying), I prolonged pain, delayed healing, and signaled uncertainty to everyone around me. Trusting God means deciding with integrity, closing chapters cleanly, and moving forward without guarantees.
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6. Specific goals create honesty. By committing to races, a coach, and a calendar, I removed the option to drift or negotiate with myself. Tangible targets don’t just improve performance, they reveal character, because you can’t fake preparation when you’re in the world of running races.
You were often correct—and still lost relational ground. Truth without humility hardened the room. - 7. Tactics have a lifespan. Monthly giveaways worked until they didn’t because they optimized for beginners and trained the wrong audience to show up. When a strategy consistently attracts people you don’t want to serve, the answer isn’t better execution—it’s a pivot.
- 8. Authenticity is the best “funnel”. The strongest strategy is showing up convicted, not curated. Most business problems aren’t tactical, they’re personal issues leaking into leadership through hesitation, people-pleasing, or inauthenticity.
- 9. When a woman is emotionally done, the relationship is already over, long before the paperwork. Acceptance creates freedom because it stops you from trying to resurrect something that no longer exists. Peace comes the moment you stop fighting reality and start honoring the facts so you can be free and rebuild.
- 10. You can’t negotiate your way back into someone’s heart. Love doesn’t respond to math, logic, explanations, or promises, it responds to safety, trust, and alignment, and once those are gone, words only create distance. Self growth, not persuasion, is your best bet moving forward.
- 11. Divorce forces a choice: live as a survivor or lead as a man. My future wasn’t to replay the loss, but to model strength, stability, and forward motion for my children. Healing became leadership when I finally closed the door to a past life.
- 12. Dignity means taking 100% responsibility for your 50 and no more. When pursuit crosses into self-abandonment, the most respectful move is to step away with integrity, not sacrifice yourself to save something that requires two willing hearts. If reconciliation is meant to happen, that softening is God’s work, not yours.
- 13. Purity is a blessing because it restores closeness with God. When pornography is removed, the spirit leads more clearly, focus sharpens, discipline strengthens, and leadership is no longer clouded by shame or double-mindedness. Purity doesn’t take pleasure away; it gives a man back authority over his mind, his energy, and his future.
- 14. Everything works, just not for everyone. The most effective business strategy isn’t something you discover “out there,” it’s the one aligned with a model that’s optimized for you.
- 15. I didn’t need an extreme diet, I needed to return to boring fundamentals. Hiring a coach (Sam Slater and Tim Walcott), tracking macros, and eating simple foods like chicken, beef, and rice restored structure, discipline, and visible results fast. Most temptation disappears when consistency replaces novelty.
- 16. Goals without deadlines are just dreams. Putting races on the calendar removed negotiation, forced preparation, and gave my training teeth. When the start line is real, excuses disappear and you have to get it done.
- 17. I stopped asking, “How do I win?” and started asking, “Who am I becoming?” Winning chases outcomes; becoming shapes identity, and identity determines decisions when no one is watching. Once I prioritized character over shortcuts, the right moves became obvious and peace replaced pressure.
- 18. People don’t buy what you say, they buy who you are. Content works when it’s an expression of conviction, not a performance for approval. Detachment from outcomes is what makes authenticity magnetic.
- 19. Safe content attracts passive audiences. The most effective marketing came when I showed up as my most honest, courageous self, not the most polished one. Energy converts faster than expertise.
- 20. Margin isn’t created by doing less, it’s created by deciding in advance. I built margin through structure: time off my phone, daily movement, macros, deep work blocks, and content scheduled a month ahead. Calm, clarity, and confidence followed because my life stopped being reactive and started being designed.
- 21. Build your business through design; not default. If anything could work (because anything can work); what would you do? Design THAT business.
- 22. Not all money is meant for you. It’s ok to “leave money on the table” because not all money is good money or money meant for you. You’ll never be fully attractive to money until you learn how to turn money away.
- 23. Delighting in Jesus changed everything. God already knows the desires of my heart, but He wanted my trust more than my striving. Time at the Master’s feet produced clarity, peace, and provision I couldn’t manufacture through effort.
- 24. Freedom requires forgiveness. Deliverance didn’t come until I fully released unforgiveness because you can’t cast out what you’re still holding onto. Forgiveness wasn’t excusing the past; it was reclaiming authority over my present.
- 25. Structure restored my life. End-of-day accountability and brotherhood through Bedrock gave me rhythm, truth, and correction I couldn’t sustain alone. Men don’t heal in isolation. Order returns when you submit to accountability..
Which one did you resonate with?? Let me know below! 👇👇👇
❤️❤️❤️ Much love and we’ll see you in 2026!
Vince
